After 9 months of failing to even attempt a goal that I was after I realized I had to make a change in my level of motivation. Up to that point I had been using pleasurable rewards for achieving the goal. I would say when I accomplish this then I will buy that for myself. The goal really wasn’t anything even that far fetched. It was really just a test of will and to do something I was extremely uncomfortable doing. I kept putting it off.
Till finally one day I looked at myself in the mirror and said if I don’t accomplish this task today then I will not pick up my daughter from daycare. I am a single parent and so that would have broken my little girls heart. To not have her father pick her up from school. The trust bond would have been broken between us. And I meant it when I said it to myself in the mirror. Within one hour I completed the task I had been putting off for over 9 months and it’s not because I was going to receive a reward, but rather that I was motivated by fear…fear and pain. Fear and pain are two of the greatest motivators of all. And
I urge you that if there is a task that you want to accomplish and you keep putting it off because the reward of achieving it is not motivating enough then I dare you to switch it around and make it so that if you don’t accomplish the task then you will suffer somehow. But please be within reason, you don’t want to make the task so unrealistic like “if I don’t make a million dollars by the end of the week then I’m going to jump off a bridge” then that is just setting yourself up for failure. I recommend to set the goal/task as something that you can definitely achieve, then add the fear incentive.